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When Option A fails you, there's always Option B

Grief is a demanding companion. Sheryl Sandberg's story of finding strength in the face of adversity is illuminating. 

After Sheryl Sandberg's husband suddenly died, she felt certain that she would never find happiness again. 

C.S. Lewis 
No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.

For the first few weeks and months Sheryl Sandberg tried to end the sorrow, but the pain and fear was constant and it felt like the grief would never subside. 

That's when she reached out to Adam Grant, professor and psychologist at Wharton. Her husband Dave had read Adam's book Give and Take a couple of years prior, and was a fan. Adam convinced Sheryl that there was a bottom to this seemingly endless void. 

A word of caution. Recovery doesn't start from the same place for everyone. It's a sad reminder that adversity isn't evenly distributed amongst the greater population. The unfortunate truth is that marginalized and disenfranchised groups inevitably have more challenges thrown at them, and their grief can be intensified. 

I really enjoyed this book. It helps put your situation in perspective. It gives you the insight to persevere. It reminds you that it's all about making a plan. Option B to be exact. 

Option A is not available. So let's just kick the shit out of Option B. 
After all, life isn't always perfect, and we all deal with loss. Whether it's jobs lost, loves lost, or lives lost, the goal is to find the strength to face this adversity. Option B reminds us that this strength comes from deep within us and from the support system we have in place outside of us. 

Option B has some great insights. It reminds us that we survive through several strategies within us. Gratitude is one of those strategies. Reminding ourselves of what's good in our lives. Another strategy is analysis. By analyzing how we process grief and also by simply accepting grief, Option B suggests that you are one step closer to gaining back control of your life. 

When life pulls you under, you can kick against the bottom, break the surface, and breathe again. 
I picked up this book by mistake, thinking it was another business book that would help me find a better focus. Luckily the mistake paid off. The book, allowed me to focus on myself, on facing the fears that were hindering my growth, due to recent unforeseen events that had created a shadow over my life. 

Option B is a reminder that it's possible to grow by finding deeper meaning and appreciation for our lives. By not letting our work define us, we are free to figure out our higher purpose.  After all, isn't it part of the human spirit to persevere and conquer our fears?